As a working mother, it often feels like we’re juggling a million things at once. Between work deadlines, school pickups, meal planning, and trying to squeeze in some self-care, our to-do lists can start to look like a never-ending scroll of stress. We dutifully write them down, hoping to tackle them one by one, but sometimes just looking at that list can feel overwhelming. It’s easy to get stuck in the cycle of procrastination, not knowing where to start.
But what if I told you that the problem might not be with you, but with the list itself? Instead of creating a traditional “to-do” list, let’s talk about the power of a “to-start” list.
The Problem with “To-Do” Lists
When you make a “to-do” list, you’re essentially listing out all the tasks you need to complete. This can be anything from finishing a work project to cleaning the house to organizing your child’s school supplies. But here’s the catch: a “to-do” list only tells you what needs to be done, not where to start. It’s like having a map that shows you all your destinations but leaves out the roads.
For example, let’s say you have “Plan Olivia’s birthday party” on your list. That’s a big task, and it can feel overwhelming because it doesn’t tell you how to begin. You might stare at that item, feel the pressure of time ticking away, and then avoid it altogether because it feels too daunting.
Enter the “To-Start” List
A “to-start” list, on the other hand, breaks down these overwhelming tasks into clear, actionable steps. Instead of just writing “Plan Olivia’s birthday party,” your list might include:
- Research birthday themes online for 15 minutes.
- Call three potential venues during lunch break.
- Make a rough guest list during your coffee break.
By focusing on where to start, you’re not only making the task feel more manageable, but you’re also giving yourself a clear path forward. Each small step is an accomplishment, and with each one, you build momentum.
How It Works in Everyday Life
Let’s take a typical day in the life of a working mom:
- Work Task: Instead of “Finish report,” your “to-start” list might say, “Draft the introduction” or “Gather last month’s sales data.”
- Home Task: Instead of “Clean the house,” your list could include, “Start with clearing the kitchen counters” or “Spend 10 minutes decluttering the living room.”
- Parenting Task: Instead of “Help Emma with her homework,” your list might say, “Review Emma’s math assignment” or “Set up a quiet space for Emma to work.”
These smaller, more actionable items are much less intimidating. They give you a clear entry point, which can make all the difference when you’re feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of tasks.
Benefits of a “To-Start” List
- Reduces Overwhelm: By focusing on the starting point, you’re less likely to feel paralyzed by the enormity of the task. It’s easier to start when the step ahead is clear and manageable.
- Saves Time: Knowing exactly where to begin saves you from the mental back-and-forth of figuring out what to do first. You dive right in, making the most of the precious time you have. Which as mothers we know time is like gold.
- Increases Productivity: Starting something is often the hardest part, but once you do, it’s easier to keep going. A “to-start” list builds momentum, helping you move from one task to the next more smoothly.
- Provides a Sense of Accomplishment: Every time you check off a starting task, you get a little boost of motivation. Those small wins add up and keep you moving forward.
How to Create Your “To-Start” List
Start by looking at your “to-do” list. Identify the tasks that feel most overwhelming, and ask yourself, “What’s the first thing I need to do to get started on this?” Write that down instead. It might take a bit of practice, but soon you’ll find that breaking tasks down this way comes naturally.
For example, if you’re working on a big project at work, instead of “Complete project,” your “to-start” list could include:
- Create outline for project key goals
- Write out the top 5 action steps for the first goal
- Work on the first action step for 30 mins
At home, if you’re planning to tackle a big clean-up, instead of writing “Clean out the playroom,” you might start with:
- Organize toys by sections, including a donation box
- Make a list of the types of bins that each toy will go into
- Make labels with Cricut machine
- Put labels on label tabs
Final Thoughts
As working mothers, our lives are busy, chaotic, and often overwhelming. But with a “to-start” list, we can take control of our day, one small, actionable step at a time. This approach not only makes our tasks feel more manageable but also helps us move forward with purpose and clarity.
So, next time you feel like your to-do list is taking over your life, try shifting your perspective. Focus on where to start, and watch how it transforms your productivity and your peace of mind. You’ve got this, mama!
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